Her fear seems crippling. There are many people on the Tasmanian Insects and Spiders FB group who have desensitised themselves by looking at spider pics and learning about them.Her extreme fear is horrendous. The smallest dot in the bathroom means she won't go in there until I've removed it. If i ever drop and lose one, I pretend to throw out the window anyway just for a bit of peace.
Mind you it might take a while to be calm around the wolf spiders I have in my garden (they are very furtive and hide in burrows in the ground)